Saturday, July 26, 2008

Kicking a very old habit

I've been strung out for all 14 years of my parenting on a consuming life-sucking habit. All my children have discovered my addiction and have slowly deconstructed me by abusing this weakness. It's not like I wanted to, but you know, it just felt like I was doing something. However, I was only feeding the growling monster of my obsession.

Hi, my name is Truevyne, I am a an arguing junkie. There. I've said it. I somehow believed that if I argued with my children, they would forsake their childish ways and step up to the maturity plate. Are you laughing at this ridiculous statement? I am now that I've been coming clean.

One of my children is a master of contention. In fact, his preschool teacher (and friend) informed me after his first day, that my son would either become a lawyer or lead some kind of rebellion. I've had a over a decade of perfecting my debating skills. Never the less, I find I am the loser every. single. time.

I've learned some incredibly valuable tools to kick my habit over the past few weeks.
Wanna know something about those tools?

4 comments:

unquenchableworshipper said...

arguing addict?

no you aren't! ha! says you!


Buck

Anonymous said...

I have an arguer in my house. I'll tell her to stop arguing and she'll say, "I'm not arguing." and I find myself saying "Yes you are" etc. Most of the time it is subtle....doesn't seem like arguing to a casual observer, just her sharing her point of view in a very reasonable manner...but I've gotten better at picking up on it when it is really arguing. Maybe I shoud lock the two of you in a room together!
College Kat

Anonymous said...

yeah, I wanna know.....where's the rest of the story?

DebC

truevyne said...

College Kat,
Just so you know, if you locked me a closet with her, she would NOT win. Grin.

And Dear Deb,
I'll try and finish the story for ya soon.